Now more than ever, the world is in need of meaningful and deeper conversations - not just with a partner, but with friends, family, and loved ones. We need to talk beyond the weather and the lockdowns, we need to dig deeper and really get to know those around us - finding out how they really feel, what’s on their mind, their beliefs, goals and dreams. Making a point to talk about stuff that matters is a simple way to flourish and cultivate happiness, not just for you but those you talk to.
Meaningful conversations allow you to form deep connections - the ones that set your soul on fire, that you genuinely and whole-heartedly feel safe in.
The reality is, we are meaning-seeking and social animals. Conversing about our experiences and the world around us enables us to find meaning in our lives. When we explore beyond the small talk and dive deeper into our relationships, we:
- Experience a sense of serenity
- Feel comfortable and safe enough to share things we need to get off our chests
- Are more likely to give and receive trust
- Build meaningful and long-lasting relationships
- Are more likely to live a purpose-driven and fulfilled life
Remember, everyone you will ever meet knows something you don’t and has their own story to share.
Below are my top tips on how to have more meaningful conversations with those around you.
- When you’re with them, be with them. Fully and whole-heartedly. Don’t allow yourself to be distracted by your phone or your surroundings - focus on the person you are with and listen to what they are saying. They will notice and they will reciprocate.
Show you genuinely care:
- It’s pretty easy to tell when someone is only half listening to you, so when you’re having deep conversations with your loved one, be sure to show them you care. The more that you are invested in them, they’re more likely to reciprocate.
Have conversations that go beyond the surface:
- Ask deeper questions, explore the details by getting them to elaborate (for example, “Oh, that’s interesting. What led you to that decision?”), and be a voice of reason, when necessary. And don’t forget to give support and encouragement.
- I understand getting a conversation going is not always easy. On a date, at a dinner party, or even with a loved one, dialogue doesn’t always flow. We have all had awkward experiences when it felt like pulling teeth to get the other person to engage, which is why I created Conversations That Matter cards to help explore beyond the small talk and dive into thought-provoking topics that will deepen your relationship with your significant other, friends, and loved ones.
Be your authentic self:
- Authenticity is so important. For the relationships you really value, make sure you take the time to have meaningful conversations and really get to know each other. Ask questions, understand personal views and beliefs, show your true self.
To receive love, you have to give love:
- The more you show love and kindness to people around you—friends, family, partners, co-workers, even strangers in public—the more love and happiness you’ll get back in return. Love your family and friends the same when they’re having a good day as when they’re having a bad day. If you love unconditionally, you’ll get that love in return and realize how much you really need it.
That warm feeling of deep, human connection is so important in maintaining our overall emotional and physical health. In fact, studies have shown that people who have satisfying relationships are happier, have fewer health problems, and live longer. Once you begin to connect with your loved ones on a deeper level, you’ll be amazed at the doors that open for you and your relationships.
Are you ready to have more meaningful conversations? Explore beyond the small talk and use our Conversations That Matter cards to dive into thought-provoking topics that will deepen your relationship with your significant other, friends, and loved ones. Get to know each other on a new level with 55 conversation starter cards, which invite you to open up about themes such as love, money, family, self-knowledge, desires, the past and future, the meaning of life, and so much more. Each card contains three questions to provoke discussion that will raise smiles, open hearts, build friendships and foster the best kind of intimacy. Featuring bright and uplifting contemporary designs, they’re the perfect way to spice up a date night, or inject some fun to an evening with the girls. Leave them on your coffee table and pick them up instead of the TV remote.