5 Ways To Reconnect With Your Partner

Have you been feeling distant from your partner lately?

Like anything we deeply care about, relationships need maintenance. We all go through the ups and downs, and whether you’ve been with your partner for 12 months, 5 years, or for over a decade, it can be easy to fall into a rut from time to time or get wrapped up in other commitments of day-to-day life. But to keep our love strong, we have to take responsibility for the state of our partnerships and use our power and our being to create excitement, joy, and happiness because romantic relationships require ongoing attention and commitment for love to flourish.

As long as the health of your relationship remains important to you, it is going to require effort to reconnect in order for it to grow. If you don’t already practice ways to reconnect and recommit, there’s no time like the present to become aware of the need and begin practicing mindful reconnection.

Here are 5 ways to help you and your partner reconnect:

• Make time to talk about your relationship

Communication is key. Speak openly and from your heart, without judgement or animosity. Everything and anything that is on your mind, any areas of your relationship where you’re struggling, or even areas where you’re thriving and what you’re loving most about each other - share it openly! We aren’t mind readers - we need to speak our feelings if we wish to grow. If you’re not sure where your partner needs extra support, ask them. Show up when they need you most.

• Practice gratitude

Don’t take each other for granted. Keep note in your journal of the things you are grateful for each day, and the things you love about your partner. Or, practice gratitude openly together - one person shares what they are grateful for and then the other follows. When we practise gratitude daily, we begin to flourish.

• Remind yourself of why and how you fell in love 

Tell old stories, look at old pictures, dig into keepsake memories and live, laugh and embrace those first magnetic embers of love and how they made you feel. It keeps the spark alive and is fuel for future growth.

• Share an adventure together

Whether it’s a walk on the beach, traveling to a new destination, or discovering a new hobby, take pleasure in adventures together. Our lives can get so busy, but don’t forget to have fun together.

• Ask questions

Asking questions of your partner poses curiosity. It’s all in the ask:

•  What’s the best part of your day?
•  What’s the most interesting thing you learned today?
• Any hardships you experienced? 

Daily check-ins help foster deeper connections. It tells your partner that you’re open and willing to listen to their lived experience. Not sure what questions to ask? Our Conversations That Matter cards feature 55 conversation starter cards, which invite you to open up about themes such as love, money, family, self-knowledge, desires, the past and future, the meaning of life, and so much more. Each card contains three questions to provoke discussion that will raise smiles, open hearts, build friendships and foster the best kind of intimacy. Or, take a look at the questions in the Flourish & Fulfilled app. 

 

Remember, don’t be afraid to seek help and guidance from others if your relationship needs it. Relationship counsellors are there for a reason - if you’re feeling at a standstill in your relationship or need some guidance, reach out to them. They can help unlock areas where you both might be struggling and provide a light through the darkness.

What do you do to keep the spark alive in your relationship? Comment below.