Have you been feeling distant from your partner lately?
Like anything we deeply care about, relationships need maintenance. We all go through the ups and downs, and whether you’ve been with your partner for 12 months, 5 years, or for over a decade, it can be easy to fall into a rut from time to time or get wrapped up in other commitments of day-to-day life. But to keep our love strong, we have to take responsibility for the state of our partnerships and use our power and our being to create excitement, joy, and happiness because romantic relationships require ongoing attention and commitment for love to flourish.
As long as the health of your relationship remains important to you, it is going to require effort to reconnect in order for it to grow. If you don’t already practice ways to reconnect and recommit, there’s no time like the present to become aware of the need and begin practicing mindful reconnection.
Here are 5 ways to help you and your partner reconnect:
- Make time to talk about your relationship
- Practice gratitude
- Remind yourself of why and how you fell in love
- Share an adventure together
- Ask questions
Asking questions of your partner poses curiosity. It’s all in the ask:
- What’s the best part of your day?
- What’s the most interesting thing you learned today?
- Any hardships you experienced?
Daily check-ins help foster deeper connections. It tells your partner that you’re open and willing to listen to their lived experience. Not sure what questions to ask? Our Conversations That Matter cards feature 55 conversation starter cards, which invite you to open up about themes such as love, money, family, self-knowledge, desires, the past and future, the meaning of life, and so much more. Each card contains three questions to provoke discussion that will raise smiles, open hearts, build friendships and foster the best kind of intimacy. Or, take a look at the questions in the Flourish & Fulfilled app.
Remember, don’t be afraid to seek help and guidance from others if your relationship needs it. Relationship counsellors are there for a reason - if you’re feeling at a standstill in your relationship or need some guidance, reach out to them. They can help unlock areas where you both might be struggling and provide a light through the darkness.
What do you do to keep the spark alive in your relationship? Comment below.